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INTRODUCTION:
Sex should be passionate, clothes torn off, frenzied,
‘OMG did that just happen?’, right?
Everyone with a pulse wants the kind of sex that leaves
you
begging for more.
Now more than ever, (thanks
50 Shades of Grey)
people are ditching the routine and
venturing out into
kinkier, hotter, rougher sex.
Maybe you’ve been with your partner for years, a new
couple looking to escape the vanilla boredom or a
singleton seeking new ways to
heat up your
encounters.
Sound familiar?
Whether you’re completely fed up of hearing about
your best friend’s/ neighbour's/ hairdresser’s amazing
sex life, stuck in a sexual quagmire or curious about
some new moves,
look no further.
That’s where this book comes in. Now more than ever,
people are curious about the world of rough sex, BDSM
and kinky role-play. Whether you’ve only juts realised that getting
pinned down with
passion
could be hot, or if this is a secret fantasy you’ve never had the nerve to try
until now, let me encourage you to
begin the adventure!
It doesn’t have to be all whips, biting, and smack downs. Exploring rough sex is a
fantastic way to liven up your love life, introduce new techniques and connect with
your wildest fantasies.
Never tried it?
With this handy book, you are taking the first step towards a more
adventurous sex life, one that you deserve.
I guarantee that by the time you finish
this book, you will be armed with the knowledge to begin having the best sex of your
life.
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Learn the different roles, identify which you are or would like to be!
Know the associated terms.
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Understand “Safewords”, what they are and why you need them.
Know the basic moves that will get your rougher, and hotter, quickly.
Role play – let me tell you how to introduce it to your bedroom (or anywhere
else).
And that’s just the beginning.
I want you to say goodbye to just going through the
motions. You
can
have amazing sex every time. Excited? Good. Read on...
Part One
What’s in a name?
If you’re new to this then even the term ‘rough sex’, or ‘BDSM’ can feel like a
foreign (scary) language. No more. Let me cut out the crap and spread it out nice and
simple for you.
Often people mistake Top/Master/Dominant for the same role. Likewise Bottom/
Slave/Submissive is taken together.
“What is the difference?”
Think of it like this: some people are spanked because they like the sensation. Some
people do it because it pleases their partner. Their motivation is not the same. So let’s
separate, for clarity now and fun later, the different concepts. Of course these roles are
open to either gender or orientation. It’s really a mix and match guide to finding what
works best for you and your partner(s).
Top and Bottom
The Top gives stimulation and the Bottom receives
stimulation. It can also describe the literal positions. If the
stimulation is pleasurable – like sex – then the Top partner
gives sex and the Bottom receives it. In other cases when
the stimulation is painful (like a punishment), the Top
gives pain and the Bottom receives pain. (And when I say
‘pain’ this can be anything from being pinned down
during sex, your hands gripping their forearms to the kind
of manoeuvres that will have your neighbours questioning
whether they should call the cops).
Dominant and Submissive
This describes the power roles between two consenting
partners. The Dom is in charge of play and the Sub acts as the supportive partner. So
Dom’s you’d be the one doing the spanking.
FYI Some people consider themselves ‘Switches’ – and like to be a little greedy: they
enjoy doing the biting
and
being bitten.
Master and Slave
The Master/Slave relationship is another power exchange whereby the Master (or
Mistress) makes the rules, which the Slave must follow. It is different from Dom/ Sub
as rather than just doing it the Master/ Slave relationship gets verbal:
Master: “Come here. Tilt you face towards me.”
Master slaps the Slave’s face
Slave: “More please”.
Importantly…
Part of the thrill of rough and kinky sex is the subversion of norms, the power
exchange and the giving of your self to the act.
Power-play is about attitude and
safety.
Trust is vital!
Part Two
Safety First
Before getting down to the hot and dirty
details, partners need to establish trust
and some ground rules between them.
There’s a fine line between sexy
surprises and taking your sex life to a
level that your partner finds more
intimidating than intimate.
Imagine getting into being dominant,
holding your partner down, getting so
turned on you can barely control
yourself and being scolded by your
partner because it’s “not their thing”.
Use your common sense and courtesy to
find out the absolute deal-breakers before you introduce something new into their
world.
Remember, satisfying sex should be mutual.
So before we get into the nitty-gritty scenarios, let’s run through some tips to make
the experience safe and enjoyable.
What are “Safewords”?
Picture the scene: You have him tied up, blindfolded with your nails digging into his
soft flesh. He moans. He cries out. He protests. “Stop, please stop”. Is this kinky-talk
or a cry for help?
It’s unsurprising that many who engage in rough sex will often hear protests and
“stop” begged from the mouths of their playmates. However to ascertain the real thing
from the role-play,
Safewords are a special code word that really means STOP.
Common words like “No” and “Stop” may be an integral part of the fantasy, so think
of a word which is completely unrelated, easy to say and not mistaken for another
word (for example “Darwin” is a good word to use). If gagging is on the menu, one
can hold a bell to ring or other object to signal distress and stop play.
Handcuffs and rope are sexy but remember to
keep the key in a safe place and have
a pair of safety scissors nearby
with blunt edges that won’t cut the skin if needed
quickly.
Don’t rush…
I know it’s tempting to rush straight into the fantasy – and believe me you’re more
than welcome to do so – but before you do, engage some common sense, courtesy and
take things slow. Establish the trust and put safety first. After that,
the only limit is
your imagination.
Part Three
Some Basic Moves
You want to try rough sex. You’ve done the homework, sorted out the safe word, and
got a few toys on standby?
Great then let me introduce you to the basic moves that will take your sex from
average to achingly hot.
Biting:
Animalistic, and sensual, biting can be anything from rough enough to leave a
mark, to soft enough to just slowly up the intensity as you nibble your partner’s neck.
For a sexy twist try biting your partner in more intimate areas, like the inner thighs,
and leaving a mark of ‘ownership’.
Slapping:
Sexy but also daunting this is a
move you start slow and wait for
feedback from your partner. Begin by
feigning to hit them around the face, and
if you get moans of pleasure and the word
‘more’, only then progress to the real
deal. And if you’re the person that likes
being slapped, communicate clearly
where your pain threshold lies and how
often you want them to slap you ‘harder’.
Spanking:
Best performed when your
partner is bent over exposing their ass,
start slowly using your hands and
progress up to BDSM accessories like
paddles, and whips. Perfect your spank
by soothing the area that has been
spanked after every hit with circular, soft
movements. Combine these with the
ferocity of the spanks for a great
combination of pleasure and pain.
Pinning:
A quick and easy way to start
giving your partner the sex they want
now, is to initiate sex more quickly and
roughly. Stop waiting until you’re in the
bedroom, and start pinning your partner
up against elevator walls, throwing them onto the bed, or pushing them over the
kitchen table, pants pulled down.
Hair Pulling:
Is secretly enjoyed by the vast majority of people. It’s also under the
radar enough to be done subtly in public to start turning the heat up. So after your
next romantic meal in the taxi ride home, try sliding your hand into their hair,
grabbing them by the nape of the neck and yanking them towards you for a deep kiss.
Clawing:
Your nails are an easy way to start indicating that you’re beyond your
average vanilla lover. Sure work up to deeply clawing your partners back when you’re
a Top during sex
but
also work it into your everyday life. Next time your stroking
your partner’s arm, or holding their hand, incorporate nail digs and little scratches to
make your connection immediately more animalistic.

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